Comments on: The How-To Guide On How To Be Really, Really Fickle http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/ running towards the things that matter, like boys & whiskey & stuff. Thu, 29 Jul 2010 04:28:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Alex Parr http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1335 Alex Parr Sat, 06 Mar 2010 17:31:02 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1335 Wow, this takes me right back to my wild youth and those horrid conflicting feelings - quite normal, but horrid all the same! LOL Be you and only you and Mr Right will come along and you can be you together! I had given up all hope of finding a man and then at the age of 31, I found my man in a rose garden who turned out to be as mad as me and wild in spirit. We were married six weeks later and are still happily married 21 years later ... so don't give up. The trick is not to worry about it, stop looking and he'll come crashing into your life when you least expect it. Good luck and thanks for the memories!! P.S. Could do with a few tips on the blog front too! Wow, this takes me right back to my wild youth and those horrid conflicting feelings – quite normal, but horrid all the same! LOL Be you and only you and Mr Right will come along and you can be you together!

I had given up all hope of finding a man and then at the age of 31, I found my man in a rose garden who turned out to be as mad as me and wild in spirit. We were married six weeks later and are still happily married 21 years later … so don’t give up.

The trick is not to worry about it, stop looking and he’ll come crashing into your life when you least expect it.

Good luck and thanks for the memories!!

P.S. Could do with a few tips on the blog front too!

]]> By: Marian Schembari http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1230 Marian Schembari Sun, 21 Feb 2010 05:30:46 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1230 If I had any form of penile instrument I would totes sweep you off your feet. Maybe not *with* said instrument, but still... Just sayin' If I had any form of penile instrument I would totes sweep you off your feet. Maybe not *with* said instrument, but still… Just sayin’

]]> By: Lauren http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1151 Lauren Tue, 16 Feb 2010 23:13:08 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1151 Jamie - Love love LOVE this post. Sometimes, I feel the same way. But in the end, I know that what is meant to happen will happen (as cliche as it sounds). When you meet the right person, all of your fears will fall away. Maybe not right away, but it'll be worth sticking it out to find out, and you'll know that (I'm convinced). Just don't ever, ever try to be anything you're not. Because you are *you* and that *you*, is amazing. Jamie – Love love LOVE this post. Sometimes, I feel the same way. But in the end, I know that what is meant to happen will happen (as cliche as it sounds). When you meet the right person, all of your fears will fall away. Maybe not right away, but it’ll be worth sticking it out to find out, and you’ll know that (I’m convinced).

Just don’t ever, ever try to be anything you’re not. Because you are *you* and that *you*, is amazing.

]]> By: Lori http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1137 Lori Mon, 15 Feb 2010 23:53:27 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1137 Oh boy could not pay me enough money to go back to dating. But loved reading this. Oh boy could not pay me enough money to go back to dating. But loved reading this.

]]> By: Brian http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1118 Brian Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:09:30 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1118 I really like what Kristin had to say in the first comment. My last relationship, we threw all the rules out. I met the girl online and we hit it off quickly. After our first meeting, we confirmed our attraction and our interest. We both looked at each other and asked what would be the point of a long and drawn out courtship? We wanted to know if it we would work together in a relationship, because we knew we were headed for one anyway. We sort of forced each other into a relationship, just as you described. And it worked... it was great. And then she went bat-shit crazy! The process really sucks. All the things you are so open about on your blog are things i would totally talk to a girl about on a first date or even before that. But because of what seem to be the "rules" of dating i would be slapped and ignored for such vulgar discussion topics. I really like what Kristin had to say in the first comment. My last relationship, we threw all the rules out. I met the girl online and we hit it off quickly. After our first meeting, we confirmed our attraction and our interest. We both looked at each other and asked what would be the point of a long and drawn out courtship? We wanted to know if it we would work together in a relationship, because we knew we were headed for one anyway. We sort of forced each other into a relationship, just as you described. And it worked… it was great. And then she went bat-shit crazy!

The process really sucks. All the things you are so open about on your blog are things i would totally talk to a girl about on a first date or even before that. But because of what seem to be the “rules” of dating i would be slapped and ignored for such vulgar discussion topics.

]]> By: neers http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1114 neers Sat, 13 Feb 2010 09:06:27 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1114 a dedication on my minion blog, jamie! p.s: we still have to hash out plans on my stuff, will mail soon a dedication on my minion blog, jamie!

p.s: we still have to hash out plans on my stuff, will mail soon

]]> By: Vixations http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1091 Vixations Thu, 11 Feb 2010 19:41:39 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1091 "And, I suppose I don’t really need to know. Hence the someone smashing into my life and demanding I love them. Because at least then, I don’t get the choice. Because, unfortunately, faced with the choice of whether to fall in love or not, I usually pick the “not” mainly because it seems to just, I don’t know, get in the goddamn way of everything else I’d like to be doing." Yes, yes, and YES! Me too. Where are the awesome single sexy funny ones? SMASH INTO ME! NOW! My mom just told me that for every 100 single women in Connecticut, there is ONE single man. I know this isn't Connecticut, but it is a fact that there are less men in the world than women, and that they are all simultaneously afraid of being ALONE and COMMITTED at the same time. Hate them. All of them. Love YOU though! “And, I suppose I don’t really need to know. Hence the someone smashing into my life and demanding I love them. Because at least then, I don’t get the choice. Because, unfortunately, faced with the choice of whether to fall in love or not, I usually pick the “not” mainly because it seems to just, I don’t know, get in the goddamn way of everything else I’d like to be doing.”

Yes, yes, and YES! Me too. Where are the awesome single sexy funny ones? SMASH INTO ME! NOW!

My mom just told me that for every 100 single women in Connecticut, there is ONE single man. I know this isn’t Connecticut, but it is a fact that there are less men in the world than women, and that they are all simultaneously afraid of being ALONE and COMMITTED at the same time. Hate them. All of them. Love YOU though!

]]> By: Stacey http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1077 Stacey Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:32:30 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1077 To quote Sex & the City...“Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them.” I think you should be who you are and hold out for the person that does come crashing into your life and it will really be special when they do. AND could you really live with yourself and be happy if you somehow convinced yourself to be and act like someone you're not. To quote Sex & the City…“Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them.” I think you should be who you are and hold out for the person that does come crashing into your life and it will really be special when they do. AND could you really live with yourself and be happy if you somehow convinced yourself to be and act like someone you’re not.

]]> By: brenda http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1075 brenda Wed, 10 Feb 2010 16:09:45 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1075 hi jamie! been reading a while, and i just wanted to toss this out--being the cool, insightful, independent woman that you are, do you think it might be possible that you might resent someone coming into your life like that? what it sounds like to me is that you're...trying to avoid the emotional risk and responsibility of having a relationship, especially the really, really scary beginning part. i think your "cosmic collision" approach might work for some people (maybe those same people that watch jersey shore religiously and think a lot about their tanning beds?). i can't say--maybe you would be deliriously happy for ever after--but part of me thinks that after the initial swoon has worn off, you would feel stifled by someone who did not allow you to be as deliberate and independent as you seem to be. maybe there's a jamie reason that you haven't identified yet that keeps you picking the "not in love" option. maybe we're all just nuts. :) and, maybe, we should be friends. although i did just give you unsolicited advice. oops. <3 bee hi jamie!

been reading a while, and i just wanted to toss this out–being the cool, insightful, independent woman that you are, do you think it might be possible that you might resent someone coming into your life like that?

what it sounds like to me is that you’re…trying to avoid the emotional risk and responsibility of having a relationship, especially the really, really scary beginning part. i think your “cosmic collision” approach might work for some people (maybe those same people that watch jersey shore religiously and think a lot about their tanning beds?). i can’t say–maybe you would be deliriously happy for ever after–but part of me thinks that after the initial swoon has worn off, you would feel stifled by someone who did not allow you to be as deliberate and independent as you seem to be.

maybe there’s a jamie reason that you haven’t identified yet that keeps you picking the “not in love” option.

maybe we’re all just nuts. :)

and, maybe, we should be friends. although i did just give you unsolicited advice. oops.

<3 bee

]]> By: Lorrin http://www.alifeintranslation.com/2010/02/the-how-to-guide-on-how-to-be-really-really-fickle/comment-page-1/#comment-1072 Lorrin Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:45:43 +0000 http://www.alifeintranslation.com/?p=756#comment-1072 your blog=my thoughts exactly. I want this guy too, we may have to fight over him =) your blog=my thoughts exactly. I want this guy too, we may have to fight over him =)

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